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I think the biggest mistake people make in their lives is thinking that their life is not perfect right here right now. I think that most of society is chasing some proverbial carrot outside of themselves thinking that when they get that thing, they will finally be fulfilled and I like to say it’s no different than the Ninja Turtle or the Barbie that we wanted as a child, You know we, we get the Barbie, we get the Ninja Turtle and we get this dopamine hit and then what happens a week later, a month later, we want another Ninja Turtle so that Ninja Turtle and the Ferrari that Ninja Turtle and the house that Barbie and the money that Barbie and the partnership are no different. We’re still always chasing something outside of ourselves so the moment that one understands that all is perfect right here and right now everything shifts. We found out and we know now in our science that everything is vibrating and when we match the vibrational frequency of that which we are calling in we become the space for things to come to us to manifest.

Most people suffer because they’re in-resistant to what is, most people suffer because they’re, they believe life should be different than what is back to it the moment we, we come into alignment with the now moment then we have a choice but um what you resist persist and for a lot of my life I was in resistance to life even when I quote unquote woke up I was in resistance. I was saying oh the government, oh the food industry, ah they’re all trying to kill us and I was in resistance to life that’s what is. The question now is what do I choose now and now and now because from that choice there’s a possibility.

The ego is fantastic, the ego’s job is to keep us safe and the ego is here to stay so for me um the ego tends to operate from the wound itself and when I say wounded self I mean the self the small s of the self that was hurt harmed or endangered as a child and you see there’s this thing called condition tendencies so right now if there were to be a fire alarm go off or some men bust down that door and run in here all of us would tap into our conditioned tendencies so mine may be fight, yours may be flight, his maybe freeze, hers may be appease but all of us have them and these come from traumas that happen as a child so the ego tends to operate from those traumas from those conditioned tendencies so for me the name of the game is awareness is can you catch the condition tendency and choose something new, can you catch the condition tendency in, in the middle of it and choose to override and step into the truth of who you be because there are the facts and then there is the truth and those are two different things.

Awareness is that awareness is breath awareness is here now awareness is a constant understanding of what’s, what is, what’s here now and now and now. See we teach that you can’t intervene in a world you truly cannot see and this is a world and most people want to change their lives but they can’t truly see what it is they’re trying to change because they’re trying to change it from the outside they think that if they get a facial or lift some weights or do some butt squats or get a bigger car that will actually cause the change but the true change is an inside change, the true change is understanding the moment to moment the little so I like to play this game where I’m like a little mad scientist, little happy mad scientist where I’m, I pick apart and see all of this stuff happens it’s a practice. When you, whatever you practice more of you get more of so when you become, when you step into the practice of picking apart and noticing all the little things and little nuances and the stories we’re telling ourselves oh you’re not doing good enough right now, this is going to be a great documentary and you need to be better. These are the little ego-mind conversations that come up now I can punish myself for that thought or I can notice it become a witness to it and then step back into the truth of who I am. Those are two different conversations so um and I know I’m going a bit further here but I want to break this down. Thoughts are a lot of people identify with their thoughts as if they are their thoughts, thoughts are like the clouds, thoughts are like the clouds and we are the sky but most people are identifying with the clouds, a thought comes through “I should hurt myself right now” let me go “look I’m so depressed, I’m so angry, I’m so terrible” and we’re identifying with a thought but the thought is not who we be, the thought is a part of the collective consciousness. it’s, it’s a um.. an amalgamation, it’s a uh.. a collection of all of the experiences that we’ve had, all the things that we saw it could have been the commercial that I saw, the billboard that I saw but then we, we identify with them “oh I need to, I need to lift more weights” well what if that came from? You see the billboard of the guy with the shirt off, flexing his bicep what if that came from, you watching the Kardashians and believing that your butt needs to be bigger so you get injections. See these and this is the practice of like piecing apart like where did that come from? and do I choose that anymore? hi little guy do I choose you anymore? no! I don’t that’s the game I play.

Accept what is, let go of what was, have faith in what will be and be here now, Accept what is, let go of what was, have faith and what will be and be here now. So for me, it’s about accepting what is, what’s here right now. cool! I have this amount in my bank account awesome, interesting, that’s some information, that’s some feedback so that’s accept what is. Let go of what was, “Oh! I was the high school quarterback back in the day bro” “Oh yeah, oh my God I used to be so beautiful” right? that’s we’re holding on so let go of what is right now, oh hold on, accept what is like let go of what was there we go so now we’re, we’re letting go of what was because that’s not what’s here now and then we have faith in what will be understanding that we are always co-creating with the creator with our thoughts, our words, and our actions. Accept what is, let go of what was, have faith in what will be, and the last one drum roll please be here now and in the being here because one may say well how do you do that you ask powerful questions because powerful questions call for powerful answers so we ask ourselves what do I choose now? what would love do now? what good is here that I presently cannot see? And then just listen, just wait because the mind got Google. They all act the same, type something in on Google if you say how why am I so terrible? You’re going to get an answer. Google search, it’ll say because when you were 14 you did that one thing because when that guy touched you in that way you didn’t say anything and you see you’re stupid, you’re less than but if you ask a powerful question if you type that into Google, to the spirit into the mind what good is here that I presently cannot see it?It will say, Peston you know what’s good, the sound of those birds chirping. You know what’s good um…your family, peace, the waves, your giggle, the way you don’t take any of this stuff serious, that’s what’s good.

The script that, that happens in the head. One of the most amazing things that I want to remind us all is that the things that we project into the future especially worry because a lot of people worry about worst-case scenarios you know we’re always playing out why it won’t work. and 99.9999 I’ll just say 100% of the time, it almost never happens the way we thought it would. So for me, the practice in the game is in allowing and letting go and surrendering with um so you have an intention, you can have a goal but then being detached from come is where the magic lies when you can let go of what it needs to look like. A lot of people would like to attract their perfect mate, attract the one but they’re so fixated on the one being 6.2 with dark hair and is a banker that they miss the guy at the grocery store, they miss the guy that they see at the gym all the time that’s always complimenting and open doors for them. So when we can let go of the attachment there’s space for Spirit, God, Buddha, Allah, Krishna whatever name is on the door for you. The universe to step in and do the work for you.

So for me um there was a time three and a half years ago where I made a decision that I was going to call in the one that I was dedicating myself to attracting the one and um in that conversation I made a decision that I was going to take six months of celibacy and keep all of my energy in every way possible and work on me because I understood that it’s not the mountain that we conquer but ourselves so I went in gym my inner gym and I was working out and I was falling in love with myself and there was a point when I came out of that and I decided I was going to start dating again and I received a message from a friend who I went to college with that said I just met the female version of you, you guys are totally going to work together like she’s dating my friend but like you guys are totally gonna work together. She said “I’m out here in London” and I said “Oh that’s interesting okay cool well um nice to meet you uh Alexi if you’re ever in LA, give me a call so du..du..du click Facebook, message sent and then go back to the work and um in that time I had set up a blind date with this beautiful young woman who I had only seen through Facebook and met years and years ago but we made a decision that we were going to meet up. The day before get this, the day before um the blind date I woke up out of a dead sleep 6 am. She’s coming, I had this clear like just understanding that whoever the queen was, whoever my one was, was on her way so I went on to Instagram and I posted a picture, and Facebook and I posted a picture, you can find this right now of “two wolves kissing” and I said I can feel her coming dot dot dot hashtag wifey, hashtag the queen is on her way and I posted it. The next day this girl knocks on my door at 9 pm, we have tickets to a show, and um she knocks on my door, she opens the door, I see her, and because I wasn’t being led by my animal I and because of all the practice that I had been in, I knew it wasn’t her so it was an immediate no for me and instead of slamming the door or saying thank you but no thank you. I invited her up because I knew enough to know that the number one thing we always have is our stillness and our silence so instead of being reactive and moving quick I invited her upstairs into my home I went in another room and I just got still and I asked the question remember powerful questions call for powerful answers and I said, “am I to go?” and I got it resounding “Yes” and I’m like really because this doesn’t seem like the one, I’m not really into her and she’s like “Yes go” and I’m like okay cool! I got dressed really quick and we got in the car and every single red light on the way to this show we hit everyone and you know I knew enough to understand that when that is happening that is the universe’s way of halting and stalling things for whatever reason so I was like okay I surrender because I was getting really upset at one point and I surrendered. 

We get to the show and run up to the door and they say “Oh! We’re so sorry we oversold the show by 10 seats, you’re gonna have to stand on the wall” and I said “Oh! That’s perfectly fine” so we stand on the wall, the guy takes a few steps turns back around and says “actually you two come here” and he grabs my date nice he says “I’m going to create one more, two more seats on the front row” so he puts my chair down here, he puts my dates chair there. I look at the stage, I look at my date, and next to her is Alexi Panos my soon-to-be wife and we have this moment where I’m like “Alexi” and she’s like “Preston” and then my mind’s exploding at this point so I’m like, I knew it, I knew she was on her way and I’m like going crazy in my mind, not actually verbalizing this, and my date’s in the middle kind of going like this the whole time and I’m like what are you doing here and she’s like “I live here I moved uh you know a few years ago but I’ve traveled so much” and I’m like “interesting I didn’t know you lived here and like the whole time my brain’s like God I knew it, I knew it, God oh you know it’s like freaking lightning bolts and fireworks are going off in my brain and in-my heart and my dates literally still in the middle just kind of like going back and forth and the whole time um during the show, I kept like peeking across my date and looking at Alexi’s leg because she had it like folded and you can just see like just this much of her calf muscle and I was like oh that’s my wife’s calf muscle, I was saying and first-time ever met her and so unbeknownst to me, Alexi had had a similar experience where she was kind of dating a guy, he asked her to come to London, she didn’t want to go, she asked the universe, should she go it said “Yes you should” she gets on the plane, she gets there, the guy misses his flight and my college roommate, my friend picks her up and hangs with her the whole day so all of these things had to go right and wrong, right and wrong whatever that means for us to have this synchronistic moment where we meet in-person and the universe is always acting that way it’s always acting in our favor. The, the issue is and the conversation I have for people to understand is it’s it’s not your job to make it happen, it’s your job to welcome it, to become the space for love, to become the space for creativity, to become the space for financial abundance, become, to become the space for your dreams and careers and Visions all to manifest yeah, the space.

Yes so for me, the ego does not speak first, for me the ego um.. is so first thought right, so for me, intuition God’s voice is what I call it um is the first thought, kisser, ask around, make a left, turn right that’s the first thought second thought is if you turn left you may run into traffic the second thought is, is if you kiss her she may say no! the third thought is like “dude are you kidding me your breath stinks”. The fourth thought is “She hasn’t given you any signals to say come kiss her” and all of this is constantly talking us out of what our initial innate feelings were, what was there in the beginning right in the front, all the rest of it is noise. For me, I like to remind people that it’s impossible to fail. The only way to fail is to die and even that is not death, it’s a trans…mutation of energy because we know now that energy can never be born and never die but the only way to fail is to die other than that it’s just information and feedback. So you turn left you run into traffic interesting, cool! now what do I choose “I’m gonna choose right this time since I chose left”. You try to kiss the girl when she says “No” interesting, I wonder what’s here for me now oh she said no because three weeks later I met her best friend who is now my wife.

I start my day with a, I set an alarm every morning that is 20 minutes before I would actually like to get up because I’m a part of our sacred contract in my relationship with Alexi is that we have snuggle time so in that snuggle time we give ourselves 20 minutes to just kind of like fumble around and like be kittens, rolling all over each other and then at that point the second alarm goes off, I turn that off, I sit up and I go through a stream of consciousness of gratitude where I just say anything that I’m grateful for like I’m grateful for my lips, my eyebrows, skateboards, cloud, puppies like anything that’s there. I just say what’s up, just let it flow, and then at that point I get up and go into uh we have like a little balcony where I have a little meditation space where I sit and go within so I don’t go without and then from that point I usually have books to my left and right that I grab one of those books and do some reading, take that in, check the surf report because if there’s waves then I go surfing and then at that point, post on social media and head out into the world to go, play on my bike because I live by the beach.

Oh, forgiveness is a process, forgiveness the f word is a process and we, we don’t forgive um to uh so in forgiveness, we don’t absolve what someone else does. We forgive so it doesn’t um kill us in the process and I know this very personally for years I held some anger and some resentment towards some family members and that hurt me more than it hurt them. You know, the Buddha says that we will not be punished for our anger, we will be punished by it. You know, the Buddha says that we will not be punished for our anger but buy it and a part of me having these heart palpitations and all of those things that stress that I was experiencing as a 25-year-old um..was for me holding this anger and this resentment towards some of my family members and the moment I let that go and began the forgiveness process and began to understand that we’re all doing the best that we can, from where we can and then it’s always perfect, in all ways that no matter how good your parents or your friends or your environment is you’re always going to end up screwed up. That’s what happens, that’s a part of life and The screw-up is some of the best stuff, that’s where the juice is, that’s where the magic is. So now in my life, I’m grateful for all of the things that went wrong. I’m grateful for all the mistakes that I’ve made. I’m grateful for all the pain that I experience because I’m no longer guessing, I’m no longer guessing what it feels like to suffer, I’m no longer guessing what it feels like to be in pain and I can speak to people’s listening in a way in-which it reaches down into their souls and reminds them of who they truly are. That no matter what the question is, that love is the answer.

The process of forgiveness is, understanding that it is a process and it happens one day at a time and one day you may be crystal clear and feel like it’s all done and the next day you may want to throw a chair through a window and all of that, all of it is perfectly fine and okay. One of the things I teach people all the time is to understand that “it’s okay not to be okay”, it’s okay to feel sadness, it’s okay to still feel anger. You know, in our society, we’ve gotten so caught up chasing good that we’ve cut off half of life, we’re all over trying to get, trying to get high on good all the time, we want to be high on good that we miss the magic, we miss the beauty of life. You know, little kids are the greatest teachers on the planet. Someone steals their swing, someone takes their toy. They get upset, they cry “Mommy, he stole my toy, I’m so mad” trying to go through this whole thing and they allow the experience of anger to complete itself and then 20 minutes later, 30 minutes later, they’re back playing with the same kid that stole their swing or their toy but adults, adults know we have to hold on to it, we have to justify, we got to carry it everywhere we go as if that is hurting the other person “You see I’ve never made it in life, I never did anything with my life because of who my dad was, I never did anything because of my skin color you know, if I had more money then things would be different” not understanding that if you just allow those experiences to complete themselves that there’s space for, for more of life and life is um in the profane and the profound and what we that which we label good and that which we label bad.

so we’re, our life is affected um…being judgmental when we believe the judgments, when we believe the criticism, when we believe that, that what we say and what’s flowing through our minds is actually truth with a capital T, that’s when the context because the, let me explain it like this the productivity of the soil the-the, the condition of the soil determines the productivity of the seed. So the condition of you determines the productivity of the seed your dreams, your desires, your wants, all of the things that you’re looking to achieve in life, to experience in life, the condition of the soil who you be determines the productivity of your dreams and you hinder the productivity when you’re in judgment, you hinder the productivity when you’re gossiping, you hinder the productivity when you’re criticizing others and going against life. So that hinders the productivity of the seed hmm guilt is a lie, guilt is a mental construct that has us believing that life should be some way then other than it is. See I like to remind us all that everyone is doing the best that they can, from where they can, with what they have available to them at the time. So if that means that you made a mistake which we all do that’s what you did and life is perfect in all ways so if that mistake calls someone else in pain yes, you get to own up to that and take responsibility but you also get to understand that we’re always co-creating and there isn’t a single mistake on this planet not a leaf, not a hair on your head, not a hair in my beard. There are no mistakes on this planet so if something terrible, something that which you have labeled terrible has happened to you or you were at the cause of that, understand that I think that one of the biggest mistakes and things that people don’t understand is that we all come here perfect whole and complete and in that completeness, we, our whole soul beings and we have both masculine and feminine energy that we can tap into and-and dance into. Now some of us based on life circumstances have created condition tendencies where we live in one or the other most of the time so for any women out there and men but women in particular who would like to have or experience a masculine man, my conversation and my challenge to you is to relinquish the masculine. I find that a lot of women in particular are and I get it, I get it single mothers, people out there hustling having to be mommy and daddy and all of the above in a business world that is operated from the masculine so um I find that a lot of women have been operating and they’re masculine so long that they don’t know how to or remember how to relinquish that masculine and yet in relationships they end up punishing and getting upset with the man for being in his feminine but at all times whether it’s two men, 20 people in a room or two people in a romantic relationship if one is in-the masculine the other one will always either fall off and move into the feminine or they’ll both stay in their masculine and they’ll be fights, there’ll be clashes. So um for me, the practice is an understanding that at any given moment you can soften that beautiful heart of yours and move into your feminine and that’s for men or women. At any given moment when you understand that that’s what we have and the masculine let me define this for you – the masculine is direct, it’s warrior energy it’s, it’s uh linear, it’s logic and the feminine is flow its creativity, its goddess energy and at any given point, we can dance into any of those but most people are stuck in their condition tendency and they’re only operating from the masculine all the time and only creating from there and wondering why certain things aren’t happening and some people are always in the feminine always in their yin energy and their head is in the clouds and you can’t attract, you’re always attracting your polar opposites. So if you are a woman that are in that is in your masculine, you will only attract a man that tends to operate in his feminine and if that is not the case, if you do attract a man for a moment that also has a conditioned tendency of-being in his masculine you guys will clash until one of you relinquishes that masculine. So I think that’s a big thing that people aren’t necessarily talking about and understanding and that goes into all aspects of life. You could be at school, let’s take a high school student who’s um having a um..a situation with some bully, some kids bullying them and the kids are operating from-from the masculine and you tend to be based on condition tendencies moving to the feminine and keep folding and, and running away and the bullying keeps happening, well if you just move into your masculine, I’m not saying to fight, I’m not saying anything of that nature but just see what it feels like move-into the masculine and into your warrior energy and stand for yourself and say  “enough is enough” see what that feels like, see what that produces and same thing on the other end. You know, as a kid for me when people would try to bully me, I would bully them back ten fold so I would, they would come with their masculine, I would come with my masculine and Einstein says that no problem can be solved at the level of consciousness in which it was created. So what he’s saying is if somebody brings fire and that’s the problem and you come back with fire the problem remains but if somebody brings fire and you come with air or water then we have an opportunity to shift something.

For a teenage kid who’s being bullied, I would say um understand that it’s all perfect right now, you’re not alone, reach out to friends, family. There are a lot of people who care about you, there’s a lot of people who would love to support you and understand that the kids that are bullying you the people who are bullying you, are bullying you because they are hurt themselves so when you can bring compassion and love to those people instead of seeing yourself as a victim because you are not a victim, you are experiencing something that does not seem or fair to you but you’re not a victim. So one of the things that comes up quite a bit is um people seeking love outside of themselves seeking love through friends and family, seeking love through romantic relationships and I like to remind people to um that love, self-love is where it’s at. It’s all an inside job, the context determines the content who you be. The moment you fall in love with yourself as Jesus said um.. “as I am lifted up, I draw all unto me” What He’s talking about is as He fell in love with himself everybody came.

So love, we cannot be separate from love. Love is here now, love is in the pain, love is in the sorrow, love is in the anger, love is in the joy, love is in the harmony, love is here now. Love is the breath that you get to take, love is the eyes you get to look through, love is the, the, the, the warm chocolate cookies and milk that you get from your mom, love is everything. On this entire planet, we cannot be outside of we cannot be separate from Love we swim in love now when it comes to making love more personal I would say

choosing to slow down to the speed of wisdom and start listening to what’s actually here, what’s happening right now. Not what’s in the future, not what, what you want to create, not what you’re looking forward to, not what happened back then when you were 7 or 12 or 15 or 30 but what’s here right now. What’s here right now is breath, what’s here right now is Sun, what’s here right now is family, it’s tribe, is another opportunity to fill this now moment-up with (deep breath) that so I like to say that love will find a way everything else will find an excuse. If you say you love it, find a way